You already know what you need to eat in order to be healthier,
that you need more sleep, that
you need to visualise your goals, and on and on and on ...
So why aren't you doing it??
You understand what all the research says. Even when you have experienced the benefits of good sleep, or you have lost the weight, there is something else that overrides your willpower - and it is your subconscious mind.
This part of you runs continually in the background, your 'programme', or your beliefs about your world, and it was shaped before you were 7 years old. This programme operates like a thermostat. It tells your body what is the right weight for you, how much you are worth, whether you deserve love or not.
All programmes can be traced back to events before you were 7. I haven't yet had a client who started a new belief system after that. This means that EVERYTHING that you experienced since then is a result of early conditioning. If you heal those event(s) then you literally can turn your life around.
âAnd if you don't adjust your thermostat, you will lose weight on a diet, but gain it all back. You will keep re-creating the same patterns that don't serve you.
I am not the person who insists that the only way to heal your future is to go back in time, I believe there are other ways too. You can just make a declaration to the Universe that it all stops now, but all too often, there is a memory that is replaying over and over again that wants to be looked at, so that it can be released and healed.
My clients think that going back to the past events will bring all the pain back, and so they don't want to re-live the memories. Which I completely understand! The thing is though, you are carrying your past with you every day already, which consists of all the painful memories.
How would it be if you could go back, heal the memory and let it go? The worst that could happen is that you could be free and feel lighter. An hour of healing, versus carrying it around with you for the rest of your life.
That would be like having a pregnancy test, but you don't want to know the results. You just keep getting bigger and bigger, but you don't want to see the bump.
And when you finally accept the baby, and the part you played in it, you are free to expand, and enjoy the new life you have created, rather than carry a weight around with you that just keeps getting heavier.
Which brings us back to my original question, why aren't you doing what you need to do? Because of the memory or association to it. If there is a negative memory, you will not make the change. You tried it before and you failed. So you know that if you try it again, you will fail again.
But what if you changed the memory or association?
A great example is a client of mine who had been unemployed for over a year. He had been struggling to find work and was in a deep depression. He knew that getting work would change a lot in his life, but when he was offered an opportunity to waiter at a restaurant, but he didn't want to do it.
I asked him what about the job was bothering him. He said that it was the long hours on his feet, and the hot sun (the restaurant is outdoors).
When I asked him what his favourite thing to do in the world is, he said "golf". I asked him how long a game of golf takes and he told me '6 hours'. I asked him how can he be for so many hours on his feet in the hot sun playing golf then if he hated it so much?
When he realised that the same thing he feared, was what he enjoyed most, he realised that all it was was his association to it. He took the job and started making major improvements in his life.
Often we associate fear of the unknown with discomfort in our body, but we overlook the discomfort when we are doing something we enjoy.
There are many ways to heal your memories, but working with the subconscious mind directly is like taking the highway versus a sand road. There is no need to go through years of struggle, spend thousands or keep trying so hard. It can take 15 minutes to access the problem and change your life forever.
If you healed the memory of your weight 'problem', you would lose weight without ever dieting again
If you healed your anxiety you would sleep through the night
If you healed your relationship with yourself, you would find loving partners.
Instead of focusing on the problem, look at what is lying underneath it, and the problem will disappear.
Don't allow the thought that you will 're-live' the pain stop you, because you are re-living it every day already.
In my coaching sessions I see so many changes every single day, and it still amazes me how profound the healing is. If you want to make sustained change, you need to change your mind, and I can help you do that.
To do what you need to do will require you to be uncomfortable, but it's not about 'doing', it's about accepting responsibility for your life, which leads to the ultimate freedom!